Denver Newsroom, Jul 24, 2020 / 04:51 pm (CNA).- As someone who teaches couples about Natural Family Planning (NFP), Jeanice Vinduska most often fields questions of doubt from couples who are used to artificial means of contraception, such as birth control pills and IUDs.
It can be difficult to convince some people that a natural means of planning and spacing children is effective and worthwhile, especially in a culture where artificial contraception is widely accepted and used, Vinduska told CNA.
But Vinduska also fields questions from Catholics and Christians who are dubious of NFP because they are concerned it could be contraceptive too.
“I had a woman in my parish who said…’Well, this is just natural contraception,’” Vinduska recalled. Vinduska works as the co-director of the FertilityCare Center of Omaha, with the St. Paul VI Institute, which specializes in teaching women and couples the Creighton method of NFP.
The Creighton method is a method of NFP that tracks cervical mucus as a symptom of fertility in women. It can be used by couples to achieve or avoid pregnancy, and it can also help diagnose conditions like endometriosis.
But methods of NFP differ from artificial means of contraception in that they do not do anything to disrupt the sexual act, Vinduska said. “Contraception basically prevents fertilization. It prevents human life,” she said. “Oral contraception can even act as an abortifacient.”
NFP, on the other hand, allows married couples to track their fertile and infertile days and to decide when to be sexually intimate and when to abstain from sex, based on what is best for their family at that time, Vinduska said.
And unlike contraception, NFP is approved by the Catholic Church as a means of planning and spacing children in accordance with God’s plan.
The ‘quiverfull’ movement
Some Christians are part of the “quiverfull” movement, which gets its name from Psalm 127: 3-5: “Certainly sons are a gift from the LORD, the fruit of the womb, a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the sons born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man who has filled his quiver with them.”
Christians with a “quiverfull” mentality towards family planning believe that they should have as many children as God will give them, and refuse the use of contraception or Natural Family Planning. They also do not attempt to resolve any physical defects that cause infertility, which they also see as God’s will.
But the “quiverfull” mentality has never been a part of the teaching of the Catholic Church, Vinduska said.
“That’s never been a teaching. It’s more about being open to life and finding a responsible way of family planning, of fertility regulation.”
Dr. Janet Smith is a Catholic theologian and author of “Humanae Vitae: A Generation Later” and “Self-Gift: Essays on Humanae Vitae and the Thought of John Paul II.” She has frequently written and spoken about Humanae Vitae, including in her signature talk, entitled “Contraception: Why Not”.
Smith said the Catholic Church instead teaches that God has given humans reason and freedom to choose to have children freely, or to abstain when they are fertile.
“God gives us the possibility of pursuing many goods; he forbids us from doing evil, but permits us to choose freely between goods,” Smith told CNA.
“Some couples are blessed with many resources both material and spiritual that enables them to have many children, but others need to limit their family size because of various difficulties in their lives. Certainly couples should be generous in their child-bearing, but the Church teaches that for serious or just reasons spouses may limit their family size,” she said.
NFP differs from contraception by allowing the couples to fully participate in the marital embrace without removing the possibility of conceiving, Smith noted. The Church supports NFP because it does nothing to change the meaning of the marital act.
“Contraception undercuts that meaning since it removes the commitment-making power of procreation.”
Church teaching also differs from the quiverfull mentality in that couples experiencing fertility are also free to attempt to remedy physical defects so that they may have children, Smith said.
“[I]f couples have correctable physical defects that prevent them from conceiving, it is fully in accord with God’s will that they attempt to have those defects repaired,” she said.
Humanae Vitae
Pope Paul VI, for which the institute in Omaha is named, wrote one of the most oft-referenced encyclicals on the subject of marriage, sexuality and family planning in his encyclical letter, Humanae Vitae.
In it, Pope Paul VI first states that “the transmission of human life is a most serious role in which married people collaborate freely and responsibly with God the Creator. It has always been a source of great joy to them, even though it sometimes entails many difficulties and hardships.”
In section 10 of the letter, the pope states: “Married love, therefore, requires of husband and wife the full awareness of their obligations in the matter of responsible parenthood, which today, rightly enough, is much insisted upon, but which at the same time should be rightly understood.”
Rightly understood, responsible parenthood is exercised “[w]ith regard to physical, economic, psychological and social conditions…by those who prudently and generously decide to have more children, and by those who, for serious reasons and with due respect to moral precepts, decide not to have additional children for either a certain or an indefinite period of time.”
What serious reasons are serious enough?
Pope Paul VI wrote that while Catholic couples are free to exercise their reason and freedom in planning their families, they also must involve God in their decisions.
“[T]hey are not free to act as they choose in the service of transmitting life, as if it were wholly up to them to decide what is the right course to follow,” he wrote. “On the contrary, they are bound to ensure that what they do corresponds to the will of God the Creator. The very nature of marriage and its use makes His will clear, while the constant teaching of the Church spells it out.”
Smith said that there are a variety of serious reasons for which couples may decide to avoid having children for a time or an indefinite period, depending on the circumstances.
“For example, if a family is financially strapped and can’t pay the bills, it would make sense to postpone having a child; if the wife has serious health conditions that a pregnancy would exacerbate or if she has duties that are so consuming (such as caring for an elderly parent or challenging child) another child may be an excessive burden,” Smith said.
Vinduska said she has worked with couples to avoid pregnancies for certain periods of time for such reasons. For example, she said, one woman was on a strong medication for a disease that made her bones brittle that would have caused serious defects if she were to become pregnant; other women with cancer have needed to avoid pregnancy while going through treatment.
The woman was successfully able to avoid a pregnancy while on the medication using the Creighton method, Vinduska said.
“We want to make sure that they are using a natural system and following their moral beliefs,” she said. “And they don’t have to be Catholic to do this. We teach NFP for everybody.”
Smith said that NFP could even be used for lesser reasons. During a 2018 talk at for a symposium at Benedictine College, Smith noted that couples can morally abstain from having sex for all kinds of non-fertility related reasons: someone has a headache, the couple wants to catch a sports game, or finish a movie, or they are staying somewhere with thin walls, and so on.
In those instances, Smith said, it is perfectly moral to abstain from sex.
“So I have a simple question for you. Why would it be wrong not to have sex because it’s not a good idea to have a child at that time?” she said.
The Church does not mandate any particular amount that couples must be sexually intimate, she said.
However, she told CNA, couples should “keep praying that God will let them know if they are being selfish,” although she added, “that selfishness is usually incompatible with long term use of NFP since only the virtuous and unselfish can use NFP over a long period of time.”
The benefits of NFP for marriage
Both Vinduska and Smith said that using a method of Natural Family Planning can be very beneficial for couples.
Vinduska said one of the biggest benefits of using NFP in a marriage is that it improves “communication, especially communicating where they’re at with their fertility and infertility. If the couple is charting together, it’s not such a surprise for either one of them where they’re at in their cycle.”
Something else that benefits couples using NFP is using the periods of abstinence to reconnect in ways other than sexuality, Vinduska said. She said she encourages couples she works with to use these times to develop common hobbies and interests, which serve to strengthen their relationship in other ways.
“Once you’re married, you kind of slip a little bit in doing the things like you did when you were dating,” she said. “But you shouldn’t have to always spend a lot of money. If you both like the outdoors, find a time to set aside to go hiking, go to a park. Maybe they can garden together, take up a new activity that gives them that sense of doing something together.”
The low divorce rates among NFP using couples speak for themselves, Smith added.
“The fact that couples using NFP almost never divorce…is a very revealing fact. NFP is a lot more than abstaining during the time a woman is fertile; it is a method that requires a lot of communication and shared values,” she said.
“It fosters the virtues of patience and ability to sacrifice. Women in couples who use NFP believe their husbands are exceptional (and husbands love that) and know their husbands love them for more than their sexual availability – a feeling that delightfully leads to them wanting to be more available (and their husbands love that).”
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I knew Francis II would say something dumb.
Ever satisfied?
Satisfaction is an evil thing to desire. So, no.
Leo’s comments were disheartening. As I hold to the Church’s traditional teaching on the death penalty, I suppose that means I can no longer consider myself pro-life.
Correct. Synodaling has freed you from your backwardist, reactionary, dogma loving, inadmissible ideologies. And it’s about time, since we are in year 12 of the Franciscus Church paradigm shift. Glad you are on board, but how did you miss the drone show?
Anyway, let’s summarize what we have learned from this latest Synodaling:
The death penalty is inadmissible and not pro-life.
The major award to Durbin is admissible and pro-life(ish;)💋
Mr. Cupich said this: ““The tragedy of our current situation in the United States is that Catholics find themselves politically homeless.”
It’s thinking like this that makes this man a particularly unworthy bishop. He simply is not thinking like a successor to the Apostles. It’s as if the first Apostles were in a quandary about which Roman senator ought to be the next Caesar. This is a bishop who does not think as Christ thinks. He thinks as Mammon.
I would suggest that cupich retire very quickly, repair to some Carthusian monastery and spend the remainder of his days in contemplation and repentance for what ill-effect his episcopacy has had on the faithful whom he was charged with shepherding.
You either support abortion or you don’t.
He did, he does and he will continue to do so – therefore he should NOT receive an award of any kind from The Cardinal – End of discussion.
Smart move by Durbin.
Agreed. As a professional politician, Durbin no longer needs the headache from this silly award or episcopal allies like Cupich. From today’s Gospel: Luke 9:60
Sadness equating illegal immigration into a bankrupt nation with the murder of Holy Innocents in the womb – largely financed by our government. The seamless garment has a big hole i its posterior portion.
Still praying for a Catholic Pope. No wonder Cdl Cupich was smirking on the loggia.
“We can move forward if we Keep Hope Alive.” Untrue in this life if you have been aborted.
Pope Leo said that “it’s important to look at many issues [OTHER THAN THE MASS MURDER OF CHILDREN] that are related to the teachings of the Church.” Leo is a miserable Franciscus II. Attempting to gaslight pro-life from a country palace after a dip in the pool just won’t do.
Well, at least Senator Durbin is a professional politician and knows when he is defeated. Praying for him to return to Holy Communion.
Well, at least we finally have a working definition of Synodaling:
Gatherings to change attitudes so that we can eventually change dogmas, like the Sixth Commandment. “We can move forward if we Keep Hope Alive.” Untrue in this life if you have been aborted.
Pope Leo said that “it’s important to look at many issues [OTHER THAN THE MASS MURDER OF CHILDREN] that are related to the teachings of the Church.” Leo is a miserable Franciscus II. Attempting to gaslight pro-life from a country palace after a dip in the pool just won’t do.
Well, at least Senator Durbin is a professional politician and knows when he is defeated. Praying for him to return to Holy Communion.
On a positive note, we finally have a working definition of Synodaling:
Gatherings to change attitudes so that we can eventually change dogmas, like the Sixth Commandment.
Well apart from the fact that the position Durbin espouses deserves “total condemnation,” not giving him an award is a completely neutral position, not condemnation. As for His Holiness, his statement was disappointing mush. I can certainly be read as allowing for the exact selective dissection of Durbin’s record to find justification for honoring him that Cupich was purporting.
Cupich, Leo & Company should surmise what sane Catholics think they can do with their “seamless garment.”
The murder of one million innocent unborn children is not in any way equivalent to the death penalty, properly administered, which is not a sin, as the Church taught for over 1900 years. Murder (abortion) however, is first on the Catechism’s list of sins that cry to heaven. If the pope, and bishops, all with years of Theology, Philosophy, and most with advanced degrees, cannot see that, then a lot has been wasted on their education.
As to inhumane treatment of illegals, I would refer the pope to last December when the Vatican instituted new penalties for illegal entry into the Vatican, of up to a $25,000 fine and up to Four years in jail. I ask, which is more humane, Four years in jail or deportation to a person’s country of origin?
In 2004 Pope Benedict, then Cardinal Ratzinger, said that unlike abortion and euthanasia, disagreeing with the Vatican on the death penalty was not a reason to refrain from receiving the Eucharist.
We all know what to expect from Cardinal Cupich, but how to react to the pope’s comments? Pathetic, outrageous, an embarrassment? After Pope Leo’s election I saw a lot of commenters ask the question as to whether we were getting a second Pope Leo XIII or Pope Francis 2.0. As time goes on I suppose the answer will be clear.
Deportment to country of a person’s origin? Not always so, not always a good idea if so!
It’s always a good idea to deport raping, murdering, and sex trafficking criminals convicted in their own country, to that country. Those simply deported back to their point of entry are a policing matter for that country, Mexico, espeically since their government aided and abetted the criminal entry into the U.S.
What’s next for the good bishop? Awarding Satan for keeping Jesus company in the desert?
Leo XIV expressed awareness of the difficulty and tensions, alluding to conflict of interests. Then added:
1 It’s important to look at the overall work that a senator has done. 2 It’s important to look at many issues that are related to the teachings of the Church.
As discussed elsewhere he responds to a conflict of interests between the sacred and the secular with a double bind. Was Pope Leo in favor or not?
If the one person with supreme authority leaves an important affirmation of Catholic doctrine hanging it is clear he is not affirming that doctrine as possessing priority over a secular interest.
Virtually all clergy from deacon, presbyter, bishop, cardinal, pope are afflicted with mealymouth disease. It can be cured. A painful chastisement from the heavens can do it. Or something like Charlie Kirk’s Turning Point for Catholic clergy would be more pleasant.
The men who were capable of a turning point moment among the cardinals: Muller, Eijk, Burke, Sarah, Zen, Woelki et Al were in an apparently smaller division but significant minority reason why an initial consensus could not be reached. The affable quiet man Cdl Prevost became the compromise choice.
At this stage the quiet man is turning out to be an affable conduit for the majority who favor Pope Francis’ ‘new paradigm’. Certainly Leo’s response was more amenable to soothing Cdl Cupich than true blue Catholic prelates like Paprocki. Durbin in the meantime bites the bullet and become a gaypride infantslayer folk hero.
Perfect analysis. Thank you, Father.
“Catholics find themselves politically homeless”??? Really?? I beg to differ.
I am 71 and have been voting Republican since I was 18. I NEVER miss an election. No one political party will reflect Catholic belief perfectly. These are secular groups, not religious ones, and will reflect a tolerant width of belief we may not always agree with 100%. HOWEVER there is an absolutely HUGE difference between the Democrats and Republicans. A blind man could see it. The Republicans have fought to get ROE repealed. They support law and order, respect our police and oppose perversion of sexual roles in society. They oppose foisting perverted sexuality on children in our schools. They oppose men in womens sports and locker rooms and bathrooms. By contrast the democrats SUPPORT all of those noxious positions, in addition to supporting the availability of abortion until the day of birth. The DEMS also gladly supported the influx of an estimated 20 million illegals into the country, far too many of whom are violent criminals. The Republicans support the closed border we have had since Trump returned to office.
Now, many “old guard” democrats have endorsed a socialist/communist mayoral candidate in NYC who is looking poised to win the election. We do recall what has happened in nations where Communists came into power, dont we? Christians were suppressed, churches closed, clergy jailed or murdered. That is what you are supporting when you vote DEM. Disgusting.
You can’t see the difference between the two??? Or are you just so self righteous that Trump’s occasionally abrasive personality has made you blind to reality, or blind to good and evil?? For those Catholics who persist in voting in the favor of the morally twisted Democrats, I have one word for you. It begins with “stu” and ends with “pid”.
I beg to differ if you consider a Republican form of government important. Unless you are blind, it’s hard not to see the erosion of balance of power in our present government. The Executive branch is trying to run the whole show. Judges and members of congress are being badgered and bullied into compliance. The Executive privilege is being abused on every front. The military is being micromanaged to the point that Generals jobs are being threatened if they dare to disagree. The sports and entertainment industries are being coerced. Businesses are being punished. Foreign governments are being bullied and their leaders personalities and reputations maligned. Law firms are being prevented from representing clients. The Educational freedoms at the local level are being taken over by the federal government (something Republicans were formally against), the Press is being badgered into what they can report. People’s very citizenship are being revoked. Even local libraries are being told what they can and cannot do. The medical and pharmaceutical industries are also being run by government agencies. We are being told what shots we can and cannot have. In short every facet of our lives are becoming controlled by the whims of one man. What kind of government is this? Is this what we want? Is this man really pro life? Is the end “Christian Nationalism “? If so do you really think that the word Christian will remain once other objectives are achieved? How long can you feel at home considering the present trajectory toward despotism? The offerings of the Left are equally scary and in no way can be acceptable to the Christian. Don’t label me as a leftist as I abhor their lack of sexual morality and lack of respect for family values. Both parties seek complete control of our lives by the State. I think that there is still room in the Center for a party which would more truly represent Christian values and would seek to gain them through ethical means.
“Don’t label me a leftist…” even though I speak like one and think like one 🙄. You forgot to include the obligatory comparison between Trump and Hitler in your post.
Athanasius: neither party is all good and all bad. If you combine the good of both and eliminate the bad of both you just may arrive at balanced solution to our problems. No one is all wrong, no person entirely evil. We can’t assume that a person’s motives are bad just because we disagree with what they stand for. Take a look at the platform of the American Solidarity Party as an example of the kind of possibility that I am suggesting. It was built entirely on the Teachings and Practices of the Catholic Church. Thomas Aquinas taught that virtue is found in the middle of the extremes. Where on the political continuum does the present Republican Party stand? How far right do you need to go before you become wrong? Is it farther right than it was 20 years ago? Thirty? Fifty? If so why? Is being far right good and healthy? I’m addressing you as one on the right because that is where you seem to be coming from, but I can ask the same questions to the present Democrats. I’m not saying that everything that the Republican Party stands for is bad. It isn’t. But the end never justifies the means and I am Very concerned about many of the MEANS that are being employed to gain these “good” ends. Despotic governments can achieve great things much faster and better than democratic ones. Just look at the great empires of the past- Mesopotamia , Egypt, Rome and Modern China- to only name a few. Not all work out this way though. What I am trying to point out is that things are getting done fast now , but this is not necessarily good. IF corners are being cut and due process is being violated, a red flag should be thrown up and we should stop and evaluate what is going on. Time to step back and take inventory. It’s never a bad idea to stop and ask questions and analyze a situation and see if we are possibly rationalizing. I am concerned because I have a feeling that many Christians are beginning to compromise values in order to reach seemingly good ends.
Jim, Your liberal bias comes through loud and clear.
I dont see that executive privilege is being abused. Trump is almost the only one getting anything done, as democrats take him to court over the most insignificant action, creating a huge roadblock to doing anything for the people.
Were you OK with the killing in Washington DC until Trump sent in troops? Or in Chicago where 58 people were recently killed but their mayor says everything is fine? Is he crazy? Honey, if you cant do your job as an elected official, get out of the way and let someone else do it. If it has to be Trump, so be it. This isnt politics, peoples LIVES are at stake.
The military is a place where chain of command is everything. You dont get to decide if you like your orders or chose not to obey them. If thats what you want to do, you are in the wrong job. A “do my own thing” military is the path to chaos. After years of DEI promotions and women who cant do the work, yes, I am glad the object is to have the fittest and strongest and most qualified in the jobs.
You think the press is being badgered, after years of being a propaganda tool for the Dem left? Thats funny? Were you blocked from posting online during the Biden years, because I WAS. I am still finding my very mild but conservative posts blocked on liberal run sites like AOL. So, I guess you were ok when they lied through their teeth for the left and never gave the conservative point of view?
Thus far to my knowledge NO ONE’S citizenship has been revoked. Thats propaganda. Trump joked about doing that to Rosie but to anyone with a sense of humor, they got the joke. JOKE, get it? Since she hates the country so much its doubtful she would mind anyway if it happened.
As for drag queen shows for children at libraries being stopped, good. I dont want my tax dollars used for perversion and indoctrination of children. The dems made an art of suing any lawyer who took Trump on as a client or having them disbarred. How is that not control, suppression, violence?? Now it comes full circle and the left is howling. Too bad.
I dont see us heading toward Christian Nationalism. Neither do I think such a thing would be threatening. I have no idea what supposed “objectives ” frighten you,( or what objectives you see lurking in the dark??) but the fake threatening world you have conjured up for yourself is a waste of energy. As far as I can see, it has been the left, which I do not distinguish from the DEMs or communists , who have destroyed the quality of life for average people, dangerous unvetted illegals and with partisan judges (who always need to be overruled),ignoring violent crime against innocents . You dont really believe that those charges against Trump under Biden were legit, do you?? Russia-gate has long been proven a dangerous farce too. As was every charge that followed.
Recently a medical professional confided that he was trying to visit Washington DC to see the African American Museum “before Trump shuts it down”. WHAT????? NO PLACE EVER has there been talk of such a thing happening. That is more propaganda, or outright hysteria. I am left to conclude that DEMs are either a little short in the IQ department, or have been so thoroughly propagandized that they can no longer see reality. Sad. I would not vote for a DEM at this point for a million dollars.
One final question. Which side do you imagine would be more than happy to outlaw religion? That pretty much says everything that needs to be said. If you are ok with the complete chaos that Dem/leftist rule represents, you have my sympathy.
Isn’t the Church entrusted with the mission to transform the world—not to be conformed to it? When individuals, particularly those in positions of public leadership, persist in advancing pro-choice policies, they bear a grave responsibility. Even if such actions are brought to confession, true repentance must be evident in a change of heart and conduct. The continued public promotion of abortion, absent sincere contrition, reveals a disconnect between professed faith and lived witness. In such cases, it is not only appropriate but necessary for the Church and its faithful to speak with clarity and courage—calling out moral inconsistency where it undermines the sanctity of life and the integrity of Christian witness.
John 8:11: Jesus tells the woman caught in adultery, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more”.
John 5:14: Jesus also told a man he healed, “See, you have been made well. Stop sinning, or something worse may happen to you”.
Meaning of “Go and Sin No More”
Mercy and Forgiveness: The words are not a means of punishment but an expression of God’s love and grace, offering the woman a new life rather than condemnation.
Call to Repentance: It’s a command to abandon the sinful lifestyle and embrace a path of righteousness, purity, and holy living.
Transformation, Not Perfection: Jesus isn’t saying that the individual will never be tempted again or never stumble. Rather, through the power of the Holy Spirit, sin’s grip is broken, making sin no longer a lifestyle choice.
A New Beginning: Just as the woman’s life was saved, the phrase offers a chance for a new beginning, inviting the individual to be changed by God’s mercy.
Significance in Christian Theology
The phrase underscores that while God offers forgiveness for sin, this forgiveness is accompanied by the expectation of a changed life.
It highlights the transformative power of encountering Jesus, where true repentance and holiness become possible
No. Reform the individual. The World is given over to Satan.
Tickertape across the bottom of the screen this morning: Pope Backs Pro-Abortion Sen. Durbin for Award.
That’s all 99% of the public sees and hears.
Pope Leo is not talking to a crew of Augustinian Friars in the Chapter House. He is talking to lay people, non-Christian, non-Catholics, and an unsettling discouraging crew of Roman Catholics with either no catechesis or erroneous catechesis. The tickertape is totally accurate with them…no nuance, they got to get to work, to school, take care of the kids and pay the bills.
The dearth of vocations for the last sixty years has resulted in a dearth of men with leadership skills. The result of hard lessons not absorbed by the episcopate over that period are hitting the fan. It appears it is not going to get better until the episcopate have no sheep to shepherd and they are reaping the financial consequence that brings.
To compound matters we read at another source today that Pope Leo [along with Arnold Schwarzenegger] has no difficulty in saying it is time to swap words for “decisive and coordinated climate action” and does so without an iota of ambiguity.
It seems when he wishes Pope Leo can speak most clearly about a natural phenomenon which is outside of his expertise and which itself quite ambiguous. From whence the change in the weather? Its all quite theoretical at best. Every prediction of doom has not materialized, while it remains a crisis? I think not, nor do a sizeable portion of the world meteorologists who do not rely on leftist funding from dubious sources.
The Vatican had best stick to what is commonly assumed to be its field of expertise, theology, but these days even that is thrown to a consensus of synodal participants.
If Pope Leo is going to heal the divisions within the Church he had best start with himself.
Pope Leo should have a little fortitude.
“Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil,who change darkness to light, and light into darkness”.
Isaiah 5:20
A lifetime achievement award? “Amen I say to you, they have received their reward.”
The dark night of the soul continues as ‘men without chests’ seem to be our politically motivated shepherds.
The good Lord’s permissive will perhaps.
The Church awaits another Benedict of Nursia.