Archbishop Salvatore J. Cordileone of San Francisco addresses the crowd during the March for Marriage rally in Washington March 26. Thousands of people who gathered in support of traditional marriage took their message to the U.S. Supreme Court as they walked and held aloft placards objecting to same-sex marriage. (CNS photo/Matthew Barrick) (March 26, 2013)
is the address given by Archbishop Salvatore J. Cordileone of San Francisco,
chairman of the U.S. bishops' Subcommittee for the Promotion and Defense of
Marriage, at the March for Marriage in Washington, D.C., March 26, 2013:
want begin with word to those who disagree with us on this issue and may be
watching us right now: we love you, we are your neighbors, and we want to be
your friends, and we want you to be happy.
understand that we don’t hate you, and that we are not motivated by animus or
bigotry; it is not our intention to offend anyone, and if we have, I apologize;
please try to listen to us fairly, and calmly, and try to understand us and our
position, as we will try to do the same for you.
to you, my friends gathered here, I say, thank you for being here, thank for
your courageous support of the defining issue of our day. Why, really, are we here? One simple reason: marriage matters to
kids. It’s the simple principle
that children deserve a mother and a father, and that society needs an
institution that connects children to their parents. What could be more beautiful, or even more sacred, than a
man and a woman coming together to create new life? Marriage is the only institution that does this, that
connects children to their parents and parents to their children and to each
that isn’t possible, sometimes due to circumstances beyond people’s control the
ideal doesn’t happen. Those
parents, too, need and deserve our love and support. This isn’t about parenting skills, though; we know that
sometimes kids can do well in less-than-ideal circumstances. Rather, it’s about rebuilding a
marriage culture, which begins certainly doesn’t end! with preserving in
the law the principle that children deserve a mother and a father, and that
society should do everything it can, and offer all necessary support, to help
insure that children get what they deserve. Only a man can be a father and only a woman can be a mother,
and children need both, and no matter how happy their childhood may be, to grow
up without one or the other is always a deprivation. This is not discrimination; on the contrary, marriage
benefits everyone, including those of us who are not married and those who
disagree with us.
finally, to the nine justices on the Supreme Court, I say: please, for the sake
of the children, please, preserve the meaning of marriage in the law, a meaning
common to every human society since the beginning of the human race. For the sake of the children, please.