Nancy and Kelly McKeague of Alexandria, Va., say their Catholic faith provided an “anchor” to their marriage during Kelly’s service in the U.S. Air Force. / Courtesy of Nancy and Kelly McKeague
Boston, Mass., Nov 11, 2021 / 13:00 pm (CNA).
To coincide with Veterans Day, a marriage ministry has launched a free “virtual date night” video series specifically for military couples, providing mentoring and other resources to help spouses strengthen their bonds to one another, to their families and communities, and to God.
The new, three-part series is one of several developed by Witness to Love, a faith-centered marriage ministry based in St. Martinville, La. Founded by a Catholic couple, Mary-Rose and Ryan Verret, in effort to supplement existing church-based marriage preparation programs, Witness to Love provides a “virtues-based, Catechumenate model of marriage renewal and preparation that integrates modern principles of psychology and the virtues to help couples facilitate an authentic dialogue about their relationship,” according to its website.
There is also a date night series tailored to first responders and hospital workers, and a more general program suitable for all couples.
Daniela Mazzone, vice president of content and leadership development and Spanish support lead at Witness for Love, told CNA that the idea for a date night video series came in response to the fact that so many couples were home together during the COVID-19 pandemic.
“We’ve always had in our hearts to do something for military couples, because we know that they also need a lot of support because there are challenges that they face in their own marriages which are much harder and could be different from what the average couple deals with,” especially when spouses are separated during a deployment, Mazzone said.
Couples can register online for free and will have access to Witness to Love’s app where they can see all the videos. It is not necessary to download the app on their mobile devices to see the videos, as they can also be viewed on the organization’s website, Mazzone said.
The military spouses series launches on Nov. 11, but couples will still have access to the videos on the website after that date. You can watch a promo video about the new military date night series below.
The new series features Kelly and Nancy McKeague, an Alexandria, Va. couple with four grown children who share the challenges and successes they experienced in their marriage while Kelly served in the U.S. Air Force.
“While a military spouse may not wear the uniform,” Kelly McKeague told CNA, “they’re going through the same tribulations and trials.”
“I just traveled with him and went along for the ride,” Nancy McKeague quipped. But her husband disagreed.
“I think, to be fair,” Kelly McKeague said, “the military spouse has a very unique role just because of separation, deployments, and what have you, and so in essence, a military spouse really does serve.”
Military life is a “higher calling,” Kelly McKeague said. “It’s a calling of service, but also a sacrifice that takes many, many forms.”
Nancy McKeague told CNA that “it would seem that whenever Kelly would leave and be gone, something pretty dramatic and traumatic would happen in our life.”
Speaking about a time when their son had an asthma attack in the middle of the night, Nancy McKeague said that she grabbed all her children and went to the emergency room, spending hours there.
She noted that emergencies like her son’s asthma attack happened “quite frequently,” and she just had to remind herself to stay strong for herself and children.
Nancy McKeague said she constantly reminded her children, while her husband was deployed, to “just remember that Daddy is doing this not only for our family, but for our country, and this is a really great thing that he’s doing.”
“I know it’s not easy for him to be gone,” she would say to her children, “but just remember we’re just going to pray for Daddy that he comes safely back home.”
The video series is not exclusively for Catholic couples. However, the McKeagues, who have been married for more than 37 years, say in their video testimony that their Catholic faith was their “anchor” during Kelly’s military service.
“Having that strong faith connection, in our view, as we present in the video, was so crucial to us, not only surviving as a military family, but thriving as a military family,” Kelly McKeague told CNA.
Staying close to the sacraments was “crucial” in keeping them strong as a couple and as a family, Nancy McKeague added.
Other presenters in the videos include a Navy couple, Shannon and Kim Walker, who speak about interpersonal relationship; an Air Force couple, Jon and Lea-Ann Virnig, who discuss family and community life; and Father Michael Murphy, the pastor at Sacred Heart Catholic Church in Coronado, Colo. Reflection questions and other resources resources are included with each video.
While each of the couples in the series has a unique perspective on the challenges that military spouses face, they also share a common experience, the McKeagues say.
“The thing that I’ve always loved so much about our military life was traveling to new places, getting to meet many new people, building friendships that have lasted since the beginning of our time in the military, and people that we’ve kept in touch with through the years that have made us stronger and have made us grow in our faith more,” Nancy McKeague told CNA.
“Those relationships and those friendships have been such a huge blessing to both of us,” she said.
“We were all in the crucible together, we were all experiencing the same challenges, and then some of those friends that Nancy talked about are from the chapel community, the Catholic chapel and they were lifelong friendships because they were honed in somewhat less than ideal circumstances, either the place or the situation or the operational tempo,” Kelly McKeague said.
“All of that starts to build a closeness with people who share the same uniform, but also share the same faith. So it’s an added bonus,” he said.
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$246,000,000 in one diocese alone — all because some bishops “didn’t want to create a scandal.” They succeeded admirably. Do they wonder why many think twice before placing further trust in them?
And the abuse of the laity by the clergy goes on. It’s just that not all abuse is sexual. Let’s remember one oft-stated truth – all abuse is abuse of power. The abuse of power is happening most recently in the Archdiocese of Detroit. Pope Leo is watching that abuse happen and does nothing.
On the matter of financial payments to laypersons who have been abused by clergy, the abuse is compounded. How? Because the money paid out to victims comes directly and indirectly (insurance) FROM THE LAITY. Remember, the clergy produce no revenue of their own. What money the Church has that goes towards penalties assessed for clerical abuse COMES FROM THE LAITY. The laity are paying for their own remuneration.
“AND THEY WERE LIKE SHEEP WITHOUT A SHEPHERD.”
We are told that insurance will cover the bulk of these settlements. Unfortunately, this is often not true, because the Diocese acted in bad faith in dealing with abusers. Often, the abuse was covered up and abusers were protected. This gives the insurance companies an out on paying for settlements. And of course, the parishes get “assessed” some sort of “fee” to pay for the settlements.
$246 million is a lot of money. That money could have been used for Catholic Education, help for the poor,etc. What are we supposed to think? We, the laity, have no voice in this. We are expected to just “pay, pray and obey.” Many of us are disgusted and will no longer obey.
I hope our dioceses have learned the lesson that these types of allegations need to be immediately turned over to law enforcement to investigate.
A criminal conviction of a sexual predator doesn’t completely shield a diocese from further civil law suits but I think it would go a long way to show they are serious about the issue.
We read: “$246 million is a lot of money.”
Yes, but it’s still less than one-third as much as the federal government has been paying EACH YEAR to Planned Parenthood ($800 million). And now we hear the head of PP complaining that unless the Fed continues to abuse the tax-paying public, this is a violation of PP’s Constitutional right to assembly.
The pain of the abused speaks to a profound theological crisis. The monetary settlements, while a form of earthly justice, are ultimately an inadequate response to the spiritual harm inflicted. The abuse by a priest, a man ordained to represent Christ to the faithful, is not merely a personal transgression; it is a desecration of the sacred office and a wound upon the Body of Christ itself. The very foundation of the priestly vocation is to stand in persona Christi capitis, acting in the person of Christ the head. When this sacred trust is betrayed, the resulting agony is not only psychological but also deeply theological, shaking the very faith of the victim.
A genuine repentance points to a crucial aspect of Christian ethics. True repentance, as the Church Fathers have taught, requires metanoia—a fundamental change of heart and mind that leads to a turning away from sin. It is a process that must be followed by a forsaking of the sinful action itself and the establishment of safeguards to prevent its recurrence. The question of whether the Church has truly embraced this metanoia in its response to clerical sexual abuse is a matter of both internal integrity and external witness. The Church is called to be a sign of holiness to the world. When its actions, or lack thereof, appear to tolerate such deviance, it not only fails to live up to this calling but also undermines its credibility and its mission to evangelize. The integrity of the Church’s witness depends on its unwavering commitment to justice and the absolute intolerance of abuse.
The reading of St. Peter Damian’s “Book if Gomorrah” (A.D. 1051) should be required every one thousand years, whether it’s needed or not. Maybe we can look forward to metanoia millennial celebration in 2051 after all the abusers and implicated bishops have died off.
Another disgraceful diocesan bankruptcy settlement. All because men leading a gay lifestyle were admitted to seminaries and later ordained to the priesthood. Sometimes this happened unknowingly but other times, indisputably, knowingly by those in leadership positions.
Certainly insurers have wised up and now have exclusions in their diocesan insurance policies (that is, insurers still willing to provide any coverage to dioceses). I believe there should be a way for the laity in the pews to have similar exclusions in their parish support offerings.
St. Peter Damian, pray for us.
Tom: and let’s remember that gay priests grow up to be gay bishops.
Notes on the whiteboard.
It is not credible that society will legalize deviance including for children but hold the Church accountable for unchecked deviance including forced settlement payouts through insurance; and trying to attack the Church as to discredit mercy. I am not presenting a “stark contrast”, I am trying to show the the parts and the whole are not working as they are supposed to.
In such a context as what should be, the recent moves by Weisenburger and his demonstration of focus amount to the ridiculous. A bishop is required to address what is truly amiss and stand the consequences; and get in there with true pluck.