A physician administers an ultrasound in a doctor's office in Montour Falls, N.Y. (CNS)
Keller was pregnant with her fourth child when she visited her doctor for a
routine ultrasound at 20 weeks and was confronted with a moment all mothers dread.
and her husband, Joe, suspected something was not quite right when the
ultrasound technician suddenly became quiet as she caught the first glimpses of
the couple’s unborn child on the ultrasound screen.
the technician abruptly exited the room, leaving Joe and Maria waiting for a
few tense minutes before they were called in to see the doctor, who met them with
a distressed look on his face.
ultrasound had revealed that their son, who would later be named James Nicholas,
had osteogenesis imperfecta type II, a genetic bone disorder that causes collagen
deficiency and defective connective tissue. Most babies diagnosed with OI Type
II die within the first year of life of respiratory failure.
were frankly told that we shouldn’t expect James Nicholas to survive birth, and
that if he did survive to prepare for it to be a matter of seconds or maybe a
couple of minutes, if we were blessed,” Joe told CWR in an interview.
recently, it was not uncommon for delivery room doctors to seize babies with
lethal anomalies immediately after birth. The belief was that it would be less
traumatic for parents not to hold or even see babies who would likely die soon
there is better recognition that deep maternal-fetal bonding can take place. But
a strong anti-life bias persists against unborn and newborn babies with fatal
conditions. There is broad public support for abortion of unborn children with
According to a 2006 poll by the
National Opinion Research Center, 70 percent of Americans believe a woman
should be able to obtain a legal abortion if there is a strong chance of a
“serious defect” in the baby.
unborn babies who receive a severe or fatal diagnosis are aborted. Cheri
Shoonveld, a genetic counselor and spokesperson for the National Society of
Genetic Counselors, estimates that only 10 to 20 percent of women carry to term
after learning of a terminal prenatal diagnosis.
In her book For the Love of Angela, Nancy Mayer-Whittington tells the story of
her daughter Angela, who was diagnosed prenatally with Trisomy 18, a genetic
disorder associated with a life expectancy of just 30 days. When
Mayer-Whittington informed her doctor that she would be carrying Angela to
term, he told her she was his first patient carrying a child with a
life-threatening diagnosis to choose not to terminate.
woman’s decision whether to bring a baby to term or abort after a fatal
diagnosis can hinge on whether alternatives to abortion are offered, and
whether she has the necessary medical and emotional support from her husband
and other family members, clergy, and health-care providers.
A life-affirming alternative
growing perinatal hospice network provides parents with a life-affirming alternative
to abortion. It offers advice to parentson how to cope with and grieve for
their baby, how to tell family members and others about their baby’s diagnosis
and their decision to bring him or her to termas well as instructions on how
to care for their baby at home before death.
small 2007 British study found about 40 percent of pregnant women with fatal
prenatal diagnoses continued when perinatal hospice was offered. In 2006,
Minnesota enacted the first law in the nation to offer prenatal hospice as an
alternative to abortion when the unborn child is diagnosed with a fatal
Catholics, Joe and Maria Keller never considered abortion, and say they had
positive experiences with most of the succession of doctors they saw during
primary doctor] really took the time and told us everything we wanted to know,
and in a very human way,” Maria said. “And he was very honest, but he was very
gentle in his approach. He was very caring toward us and followed up with a few
a high-risk obstetrician urged Maria to abort and tried to console her by
telling her that if she got pregnant again she would be able to obtain prenatal
genetic screening early in the pregnancy. This, Maria was told, would allow for
the early detection of any fetal abnormalities and time to abort before she got
emotionally attached to her child.
just exploded,” Maria said she responded. “I told [the doctor], ‘Listen, [my] baby
has this condition, but how is me killing this baby going to make it all
better? How is me killing him going to make me happier?’”
Kellers’ experience highlights the pro-abortion prejudice held by many medical
professionals toward babies with severe or fatal diagnoses. A study by the
American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists found that 90 percent of its
surveyed members support abortion for fatal fetal anomalies, and 63 percent
support abortion for non-fatal anomalies.
2000 study in the journal Prenatal Testing
and Disability Rights found that a quarter of physicians admitted trying to
influence mothers’ reproductive decisions, usually encouraging them to abort. Other studies have found that many pregnant women feel
pressured to undergo invasive prenatal testing, then, if the test comes back
positive for a disability in their child, to abort.
Dr. Amina White, an OB/GYN at Howard
University in Washington, DC, believes that most physicians try to be sensitive
toward parents who receive poor prenatal diagnoses. But, she told CWR, “Sometimes in the counseling we give[in]
the tone that we use and some of the words that we use[we] can end up making
parents feel that they have no other choice but to end the pregnancy.”
thinks some physicians feel “the goal should be to avoid suffering at any cost.
And they assume that the [baby’s life] will be so difficult, so full of
suffering and pain, that it’s just not worth it.”
says that physicians sometimes use callous or misleading terms such as “grossly
deformed,” “lethal anomaly,” or “incompatible with life,” which can give
parents an inaccurate picture of their child’s condition and may inadvertently
encourage them to abort.
if we know that there’s a really, really high possibility that the baby either
won’t survive the pregnancy or will die very shortly after birth,” Dr. White
said, “‘incompatible with life’ has some overtones that may give some parents
the impression that the baby is likely to die any minute, when in fact some of
those infants for whom that diagnosis or that phrase is used actually go on to
live for days, for weeks, for months.”
For the Love of Angela,
Mayer-Whittington writes about the special challenges that confront women who
carry babies with fatal conditions to term.
had to decide whether, when, and how to talk about Angela’s condition to people
she encountered. “I finally decided that certain conditions had to be met in
order for me to speak candidly about Angela,” she wrote. “If the
congratulations came from a total stranger, I said nothing and accepted their
best wishes.” She continued:
Breaking the news to people was practically a trauma in
itself. They were so shocked and unprepared, and many could not hold back
tears. They had no idea what to say to me and just nodded wordlessly as I tried
to comfort them. At a time when I was in dire need of consolation…I frequently
found myself placed in the position of consoling other people.
challenges arose after Angela’s birth and her death, a few minutes later. “Every
time someone congratulated me about my pregnancy, I was confronted with an
enormous dilemma. Should I tell them the truth or keep quiet? Ironically, I did
not want to spoil their happiness by telling them about Angela’s death. These
conversations were achingly difficult, for they made me relive my story over
and over again. … To be honest, there is nothing good about the death of a
child. It is the life you lead afterward that creates the good.”
later co-founded Isaiah’s Promise, a support group for parents continuing a
pregnancy after a severe or fatal diagnosis in the Washington, DC area.
with women who abort generally, some women who abort babies with fetal
anomalies later experience intense grief. Theresa Bonapartis of Lumina, a
post-abortion referral network, told CWR
that she has seen a significant rise in recent years in the number of women who
seek out grief counseling after aborting a child with an adverse diagnosis.
women who abort babies with disabilities have special post-abortion counseling
needs. Most plan to give birth and abort only after prenatal testing reveals a
disability. Typically, the usual reasons given for abortionimmaturity, lack of
support, poverty, or inconvenienceare not present. Most of the pregnancies, in
other words, are “wanted”until the disability is detected.
grief associated with disability abortion is often made more intense by the
fact that most disability-related abortions take place in the second or third
Not Afraid offers free pastoral care for parents experiencing a poor prenatal
diagnosis. It is a network of concerned parents and professionals who have
experienced or worked closely with issues surrounding poor prenatal diagnosis.
co-founder of Be Not Afraid, Monica Rafie started the initiative as an online
outreach to parents who receive difficult prenatal diagnoses. The websitebenotafraid.netincludes
family stories, articles, and information to help women with difficult
pregnancies find counseling. “By sharing our experiences,” the website says,
“we hope to offer encouragement to those who may be afraid to continue on.”
helped Maria and Joe
Keller after they found out about James’ condition. In an e-mail to CWR, she explained that since the Kellers never considered abortion
and have a strong extended family and deep faith, her role was simply to be “a
friend who would not change the conversation when something difficult and
painful came up and who would laugh with [Maria] when absurdities popped
up (and there were plenty).”
through a prenatal diagnosis pregnancy is primarily an apostolate of
friendship, a ministry of presence,” she said. “It’s about ‘being there,’ come
late October, more than 60 people gathered in Charlotte, North Carolina for a
two-day conference organized by Be Not Afraid.
Speakers from several Catholic dioceses and disability
advocacy groups made presentations, as did pro-life physicians, several priests,
and three mothers who had been helped by Be Not Afraid. Some attendees were interested
in establishing similar ministries in their dioceses or communities.
of the speakers talked about the importance of listening to parents and
allowing them as much time as possible with their babies. Amy Daniels, director
of the Office of Formation and Discipleship with the Archdiocese of Atlanta,
talked about the importance of “running in, not out.”
this Daniels meant that many well-intentioned family members and friends of mothers
of unborn babies with difficult diagnoses will try to avoid the women out of
doubt about what to say or concern that they’ll say the wrong thing. But in
many cases mothers wish to talk about their pregnancies, and appreciate friends
who engage them about their experiences.
were encouraged to try and cut through the euphemistic language that medical
personnel often use when describing the pregnancy and the child.
Benton, executive director of the National Catholic Partnership on Disability,
talked about the importance of not trying to comfort mothers by telling them
that the diagnosis might be wrong. “That’s like saying ‘Yeah, a child with a
disability would be the end of the world,’” Benton said.
Heartbreaking and wonderful
a mother gives birth to a dying child, a lot must be done in a short period of
time. The delivery room can be a chaotic rush of family members, photographs,
and religious rituals.
Mayer-Whittington’s daughter, lived for only a few minutes after birth. But in
that time, Angela met her parents, was baptized, and received last rites. Mayer-Whittington
described those moments as “the most wonderful and heartbreaking of my life.”
Angela alive, holding her, telling her I loved her, had made everything
worthwhile, all the grief, uncertainty, and confusion,” she wrote. “The
decision to proceed with the pregnancy had been the correct one. I now had the
face of my infant daughter forever etched in my memory.”
mothers at the Be Not Afraid conference all talked about the importance of
memory-making, which involves lots of photos before, during, and after birth. Memory-making
also may include planning funerals,
making outfits for the baby, making hand or foot impressions, constructing
memory books full of ultrasound pictures, locks of hair, congratulatory cards
and mementos from the hospital, and more. The Kellers made special bracelets
for themselves and their other children to wear to remind them of James.
took lots of pictures and did many other thingsincluding planting a treeto
help her remember her daughter’s brief life, which she called “Angela moments.”
“I had this huge need to talk about Angela, an incredible desire to validate
her existence to everyone,” she wrote.
his encyclical letter The Gospel of Life,
Pope John Paul II affirms that it is “morally licit” to use “prenatal
diagnostic techniques which enable the early detection of possible anomalies in
the unborn child…when they do not involve disproportionate risks for the child
and the mother, and are meant to make possible early therapy or even to favor a
serene and informed acceptance of the child not yet born.”
condemns the “conspiracy against life” that seeks to “eliminate malformed
babies” and others with disabilities. He reaffirms Catholic teaching that “the
direct and voluntary killing of an innocent human being is always gravely
immoral,” singling out the prevention of “the birth of children affected by
various types of anomalies.”
an attitude,” he writes, “is shameful and utterly reprehensible, since it
presumes to measure the value of human life only within the parameters of
‘normality’ and physical well-being, thus opening the way to legitimizing
infanticide and euthanasia as well.”
Paul II urges us to take a “contemplative outlook” that recognizes “every
individual as a ‘wonder’” and “to see in every human face the face of Christ.”
2004, National Catholic Bioethics Center issued a statement titled, “Early
Induction of Labor.” It affirmed that the Church considers the early induction
of labor because of a poor or fatal prenatal diagnosis to be an abortion.
the number of older mothers increases, and as the use of assisted reproductionincluding
in vitro fertilizationcontinues to rise, so might the number of unborn babies
with severe and fatal disabilities. In 2007, the
American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists began recommending that all
women be offered prenatal screening for genetic conditions. And very soon
prenatal tests will be widely available that can screen for hundreds of genetic
defects much more cheaply and less invasively than do current tests.
developments are taking place in a culture that increasingly demands genetic perfection.
In 2003, the President’s Council on Bioethics stated, “the attitude of parents
toward their child may be quietly shifting from unconditional acceptance to
critical scrutiny: the very first act of parenting now becomes not the
unreserved welcoming of an arriving child, but the judging of his or her
fitness, while still an embryo, to become their child, all by the standards of
contemporary genetic screening.”
in biotechnology present an opportunity for groups like Isaiah’s Promise and Be
Not Afraid. They offer an opportunity for them to spread their message that,
while a fatal prenatal diagnosis can mean a lot of tears, it can also be an
invitation to a more focused and deliberate love.
has taught us so well to not be afraid and to enjoy each moment we have,” Joe
Keller said. “We’re spending more quality time together as a family, we’re
loving each other more as a family. And we can thank James Nicholas for that.”
“Grief can last a lifetime,” Mayer-Whittington
wrote. “But I have come to believe that Angela was a gift, an incredible
treasure…Angela’s life and death showed me clearly that life can be lived fully
and completely in the space of a few minutes.”