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His autobiography exemplifies the narcissism and immaturity of much Church leadership in the years since Vatican Council II.

By Russell Shaw

Probably the most telling passage in Archbishop Rembert G. Weakland’s autobiography A Pilgrim in a Pilgrim Church concerns an apparently trivial incident in late 1977. The newly arrived archbishop of Milwaukee was cleaning out his predecessor’s files when, at the back of a cabinet, he came across dusty copies of psychological and sociological studies of American priests published five years earlier. He took them home, read them, and “resonated” to the insight that immaturity was one of the most serious problems of clerics. 

“To be honest,” Archbishop Weakland writes, “I had to recognize that same immaturity in myself. In addition, I was becoming concerned that narcissism was equally a problem among the clergy; again, I could see this in myself. For us priests self-centeredness seems to have come with our mother’s milk, and was later re-enforced by being treated as the favorite among our siblings because of our priestly vocation.”

Having thus unburdened himself, the author drops the subject—consciously at least. But the whole of his book shows the immaturity/narcissism pattern at work in the author’s career; indeed, the book itself is a significant part of it. Here are the memoirs of one of those self-centered, narcissistic priests, who, having risen to the highest levels of the American hierarchy at a crucial time, faltered tragically there.


In 2002 Archbishop Weakland retired under a cloud following the disclosure that he’d had an affair with a man 20 years his junior to whom he paid $450,000 from archdiocesan funds to settle a lawsuit without publicity. The editor of this magazine already has expressed well-founded indignation regarding his book (George Neumayr, “Pilgrim’s Regress,” CWR, July 2009). Yet A Pilgrim in a Pilgrim Church needs to be read by faithful Catholics: not, God knows, to be persuaded by it but to learn from it. It’s like studying photographic negatives—reality reversed, dark turned into light, light into dark. In these plodding pages it becomes clear how some prominent and not-so-prominent people in the Church went disastrously wrong in the last 40 years and why correcting the harm they did is so difficult now.

Hearing that Archbishop Weakland was planning an autobiography, I naturally asked myself: why? Given the circumstances of his leaving office, wouldn’t silence be in his and everyone else’s best interests? His answer (or the most cogent one anyway, since he gives several different answers in two different places in the book) has to do with his “concept of the Church’s nature as a communion of believers on a faith journey…. My story affects everyone else’s story and thus, at least in part, belongs to them.”

What on earth does that mean? In the finest of American autobiographies, The Education of Henry Adams, the author says nothing about the most emotionally searing event of his life—the suicide of his mentally disturbed wife—on the grounds, apparently, that there are things a gentleman simply doesn’t talk about. But times have changed, and we live in the age of Oprah, not Henry Adams. Cutting through the churchy jargon, Archbishop Weakland’s rationale for writing makes sense in light of his statement that disclosure of his affair with Paul Marcoux and his homosexuality was liberating for him: “The tension between being myself and trying to be a bishop in an image I found outmoded ceased.” Writing an autobiography—as a favor to the rest of us, he says—is still another self-regarding exercise in liberation. That’s how Oprah ecclesiology works.

Rembert Weakland was more intelligent than most bishops of his day and his sexual foibles were atypical, but he was a representative American bishop all the same. Usually, he notes, he’s called a “Jadot bishop,” a reference to the late Archbishop Jean Jadot, apostolic delegate in the United States from 1973 to 1980, who did so much to reshape the American hierarchy along “pastoral” lines—pastoral in this instance meaning more permissive, less concerned about orthodoxy and discipline, more open to voices of diversity and liberal dissent.

But Archbishop Weakland prefers the designation “Dearden bishop,” and in this he’s correct. Cardinal John Dearden was archbishop of Detroit from 1959 to 1980. As the first post-Vatican II president of what was then called the National Conference of Catholic Bishops/United States Catholic Conference (now, the USCCB), he gave the Church in America the national episcopal conference in its modern, bureaucratized, activist form, as later he was to give it the notorious, left-leaning Call To Action Conference of 1976. His influence is visible in the careers and leadership styles of a generation of American bishops with names like Bernardin, Quinn, Roach, and Malone. It persists even now via the old-boy patronage system in the hierarchy.

From one point of view, Archbishop Weakland’s rise in the Church is an ecclesiastical Horatio Alger story. Brains, musical talent, and a knack for pleasing superiors propel a boy who grew up in dire poverty during the Depression onto the Benedictine fast track. Study in Rome, advanced musical studies at Juilliard in New York, and election as an archabbot in 1963 follow in quick succession. In 1967, he became Abbot Primate of the worldwide Benedictine order. Ten years later, at the early age of 50, archbishop of Milwaukee. How much higher might he have hoped to go?

At this point it’s useful to recall that there are two radically different versions of the story of American Catholicism in the four decades after Vatican II. Which you subscribe to tells much about where you come down on many key issues in the Church.

The first version sees these years divided into two sections. The first, starting with the council’s close in 1965 and continuing until 1978, was filled with turmoil and dissent. Rectories, convents, and seminaries emptied. New vocations to the priesthood and religious life fell precipitously. After the brave gesture of Humanae Vitae in 1968 and the violent reaction against it, Pope Paul VI grew increasingly weary and depressed. The Church seemed to be rushing toward collapse. But 1978 brought the election of John Paul II as pope, and collapse was averted.

Version number two divides this era the same way, but sees the two periods very differently. In this view, the years from 1965 to 1978 were in many ways a golden age when heroic figures battled reactionaries over the renewal of Catholic life, by and large (except for setbacks like Humanae Vitae) emerging on top. Then came 1978, the death of Paul VI, the election of John Paul II. Suddenly the emphasis in Rome was on thwarting renewal—a project that continues to this very day under Benedict XVI.

Archbishop Weakland subscribes to this second version of history. As Abbot Primate in Paul VI’s Rome during the post-council years he was a Vatican insider and, in his own sphere of influence, an important player in renewal. He returned to America in 1977 as archbishop of Milwaukee full of hope. Under John Paul II, however, a new ice age set in—an age of authoritarianism, centralization, and repression. From being an insider, the archbishop suddenly found himself part of the “loyal minority.”

Many things that happened in the postconciliar era are best understood in light of Archbishop Weakland’s diagnosis of immaturity and narcissism among the clergy (to say nothing of women religious), both those who left and those who stayed. The pre-Vatican II formation system produced many admirable priests and religious, but its rigid structures and rules also produced many who proved to be ill-equipped for the fluid and ambiguous ecclesiastical situation immediately after the council.

In these years, for long stretches of time, a fundamentally adolescent spirit dominated the much-heralded American Church. Significantly, Archbishop Weakland reports that “sexual awareness”—apparently he means awareness of his homosexuality—arrived for him at the advanced age of 45. Many other priests and religious were similarly late bloomers for whom sexual self-discovery and sexual experimentation belatedly became pressing issues in their lives.

A major feature of this adolescent ecclesiastical scene was the tyranny of psychologizing, reflecting the sickly mindset memorably described by Philip Rieff’s The Triumph of the Therapeutic. As the infatuated archbishop of Milwaukee fretted over his relationship with Paul Marcoux, he found solace in the ministrations of a “sage” Jesuit confessor and a psychologist, who showed him that loneliness lay at the heart of his sexual obsession. The psychologist presumably was simply doing what psychologists do—finding psychological explanations for things—but, if Archbishop Weakland is reporting him correctly, surely that Jesuit confessor would have done better to point out  that sacramental absolution requires a firm purpose of amendment—in this case, breaking off his sexual involvement once and for all.

When the archbishop did finally get around to that, it was by way of a mawkish letter to Marcoux in August 1980—a letter any schoolboy (or schoolgirl, for that matter) might have penned. Thereafter, on the “rebound” from Marcoux, he spent several more years seeking “an intimate relationship with another.” And what, one wonders, did the sage Jesuit say about that?

One of the peculiarities of people who accept version number two of the last 40 years is their consistent failure to face up to the implications of the empirical data of decline. When Archbishop Weakland arrived in Milwaukee, the archdiocese—though already having experienced a decade of decline—still had 700,000 Catholics, over 300 parishes and missions, 547 active diocesan priests, 3,872 sisters, and 216 brothers. Seven new diocesan priests were ordained that year, and Milwaukee’s two diocesan seminaries had 115 students. By 2002, when he stepped down, there were 695,000 Catholics, 224 parishes and missions, 246 active diocesan priests, 2,601 sisters, and 56 brothers. One new diocesan priest was ordained that year, and the one remaining diocesan seminary had 21 students.

Many other American dioceses suffered similar declines in these years. It would be unfair to blame Archbishop Weakland and the other bishops exclusively for what happened. But quality of leadership obviously played a part. In that context, there’s something inescapably bizarre about his self-congratulatory reflection (while waiting for a news conference on May 31, 2002 at which he would make a public apology to Milwaukee Catholics for the Marcoux affair): “I knew that my 25 years as archbishop had been good years that could not be taken from me.” Taken from him? This is the voice of narcissism.

There’s much to dislike about this book and the self-portrait it provides. The author is humorless, eager to settle scores with people who had the temerity to cross him, quick to fix blame for his missteps on somebody or something else (as when, explaining the $450,000 payoff to Marcoux from archdiocesan funds, he inexplicably complains of feeling “hemmed in by the Church”—as if it were the Church’s fault!). On the level of substance, it’s deeply regrettable that a member of the Catholic hierarchy should consider himself entitled to distance himself from Catholic teaching on issues like homosexuality and women’s ordination. More liberation for Rembert Weakland, one supposes.

Archbishop Weakland is a gifted man in many ways. In joining the Benedictines and becoming a priest he undoubtedly was moved by a desire to serve God and his people. Over the years he’s devoted time and energy to many good causes, although, as his book makes clear, he’s also been a partisan of causes that are not good. He has a keen critical eye for other people’s motes while regarding his own beams with indulgence. Curial officials often subjected him to second-guessing, which he found infuriating, but seldom gave him useful guidance, much less correction. This is how nervous parents mishandle troublesome adolescent sons.

A Pilgrim in a Pilgrim Church exemplifies in sometimes tedious detail the narcissism and immaturity of much Church leadership in the years since Vatican Council II. The book is well worth reading, but with a note of caution constantly in mind: Caveat lector. There’s an important story here, but not quite the one the author thinks.


Russell Shaw was Secretary for Public Affairs of the National Conference of Catholic Bishops/United States Catholic Conference from 1969 to 1987. The most recent of his 19 books is Nothing To Hide: Secrecy, Communication, and Communion in the Catholic Church (Ignatius, 2008).


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Scott Johnston  - Clerical leadership training?     |2009-10-01 12:18:08
This review prompts an obvious question. How ought the Church in America train its future priests for good leadership? What improvements still need to be made in this area?

I know that improvements in the academic and spiritual environment of American seminaries have been made and, as a rule, they are considerably better today than in the 70's. But I think that when it comes to providing excellent formation and experience in leadership, perhaps much still needs to be done.

As someone who served in the Navy (91-96), I have great respect for the mostly very effective leadership training the American military constantly gives its future leaders. And I know that a great deal of this is "hands on" in nature. Principles of good leadership are drilled into military members bit-by-bit, starting from day one of boot camp. They are given controlled opportunities to exercise it with gradually greater levels of responsibility as the capability for such is proven. Also, the military tries hard (and mostly succeeds I would claim) in selecting only its best, proven leaders, to be the formators of its next generations of leaders. Excellence breeds excellence. (I still have strong impressions of how motivating and inspiring, on a human level, some of the best military leaders I observed could be.)

And here is a direct tie-in to the content of this article: if there is one thing that the very best military leaders have in common, it is a very high spirit of service and self-sacrifice. Yes, there is the occasional self-absorbed character. But those leaders who are most revered, respected, and loved by their subordinates are always men (or women) of great personal self-sacrifice. Their allegiance is to their men and their country--to their sworn duty--not themselves.

I would not by any means advocate for the Church to try to duplicate the military. But, perhaps there is something to be learned from the traditions of the military as to how it engenders a culture of leadership and passes this on to the next generation.

In my personal observation (and granted this is anecdotal), younger priests who have good leadership ability are such because they came into seminary with prior leadership experience (whether from business, military, firefighting, or other situations that require good leadership to be effective). Perhaps this isn't an accurate observation, but it seems to be rare that a seminarian who does not enter seminary already a good leader emerges from seminary a good leader. It seems the bishops have long overlooked the high importance of formation for leadership as something to be done alongside theological and spiritual formation.

Your review brought up other issues, but it seems to me the issue of leadership is one of the most concrete and pressing and something that still lags behind other improvements that have been made. Great leadership does not just happen. It has to be carefully nurtured within a community whose overall culture recognizes, greatly values, respects, and encourages it.
Rick Flores   |2009-10-01 12:35:07
We ALL fall short as humans. The key is that we recognize our shortcomings and try to compensate for them. If we seek God's guidance in all that we do and focus on the proper intentions, we can still accomplish what God intends for our lives. The problem is the acceptance of humanistic blasphemy, such as Luther's "Justification Theology", which result in disturbing acceptance of sinful behavior! Sadly, the liberals have convinced many so-called "Christians" that misbehavior is acceptable because man is incapable of avoiding sin. This heretic philosophy establishes that we do not need to worry about even trying to behave in a "Christ-like" manner because we will always fail. This is totally WRONG! Just because it is impossible to ever hit a golf ball perfectly is NO reason to fail to try! It is in trying to achieve perfection that we please God...NOT in being perfect. He wants us to apply our God-given talents for His glory. To give up and behave as a pagan is totally unacceptable to God; yet, it is that basis of many heretic "Christian" faiths. We are called to always strive for perfection. Tolerance of sin has destroyed our culture and must be stopped. The PC acceptance of sinful behaviors has caused so many to lose their faith! For example, many of our "previously Catholic" Universities are teaching our youth that gays are incapable of remaining celibate, so it is acceptable to be "actively" gay; that a baby is not a baby until he/she is born, so it's all right to KILL your child within the womb if he/she is inconvenient...even thought God is totally against it; that because of man's inherent weakness, sex before marriage is a unavoidable and, therefore, acceptable; that remaining married for a lifetime is impossible, so divorce is alright...even a "normal" part of life! (They are too young to remember a time when divorce was rare and unacceptable!) This was the basis of Luther's heresy, and it is being taught in nearly ALL Jesuit Universities in various forms... Yes, man has faults, but he is capable of overcoming those faults with God's help! The heretics lack FAITH... For, with God ALL things are possible!!!
Bill McKenzie   |2009-10-02 17:51:35
I am 60 years old. The crisis of my lifetime, in Church, State, Community and Family has been the crisis of leadership. We no longer recognize or respect good leadership because it demands sacrifice. We no longer put men with leadership abilities in leadership positions. We hate leadership and real leaders. We appoint effeminate men instead.

We no longer deserve the freedom that effective leadership procures, and will therefore lose that freedom. The most exemplary leader in the world today is Archbishop Raymond Burke. He is always spot on in everything he says, and always accurate in his analysis and observations. And it is his leadership qualities that makes the world hate him.
Eric Giunta  - Justifying Sex Abuse     |2009-10-03 10:48:50
Mr. McKenzie says:

"We no longer deserve the freedom that effective leadership procures."

Translation: Oh, honey, Father is molesting you because YOU deserve it! Now shut up, and out out!"

No, thanks you!
Bill McKenzie   |2009-10-03 13:09:55
Eric, you misunderstand me. Effective leadership would have stopped clerical sex abuse dead in its tracks. Instead we get appeasement. To me a bishop is a worthless shepherd if he tolerates wolves among the sheep.
Eric Giunta  - TYPO!     |2009-10-03 11:32:01
For the moderator:

Please edit my comment of 10:48:50

It should read, ". . . shut up, and put out", not "out out"

Thanks!
william j quinn  - LCDR USNR-R(ret)   |2009-10-06 10:00:42
Homosexuals in the priesthood have irreparably scarred countless young men and boys, bankrupted diocese's and held the Church of Christ up to ridicule, and here an Archbishop prides himself on his perversion, and a monk from Kentucky criticizes the critics of such behavior. God help us.
william j quinn  - re: LCDR USNR-R(ret)   |2009-10-08 05:03:16
I hope that any proceeds from Archbishop Weaklinds book are going to repay the $430 thousand dollars he stole. The man should be in jail and I am most disappointed in the Benedictines for giving him room and board.
william j quinn wrote:
Homosexuals in the priesthood have irreparably scarred countless young men and boys, bankrupted diocese's and held the Church of Christ up to ridicule, and here an Archbishop prides himself on his perversion, and a monk from Kentucky criticizes the critics of such behavior. God help us.
Anonymous  - Prayer the only answer   |2009-10-09 14:06:47
The Archbishop will have to face His Maker as will we all.
God reads our hearts and minds.
We may be able to fool the world but not God.
He and all those affected by his weakness need prayers.
J. Kruger   |2009-10-28 09:14:24
We are all called to chastity who are not married, i.e.,the union of one man and one woman. All sex outside of marriage including masterbation is a mortal sin. Those within the church who recognize that they have a weakness for lust, in good conscience must attempt to do something about it including much prayer, counseling and medical help. What did they give to soldiers to control this problem? It is when one succumbs to his weakness that harm is done. Perhaps the church should install a contractual policy that states if a priest commits a sexual crime or any crime for that matter, he must pay all of the consequences not only incarceration, but the monetary responsibility attached to the scenario as well. The church (the body of Christ) should not be responsible to pay for one's bad behavior. Parents are not responsible for their adult children's behavior...so be it!
Charles Keller  - Let him who is without sin...   |2009-11-05 07:14:26
I am reading Rembert's book and thinking a lot about the life of one of America's most remarkable priests. I knew of Rembert when he Monastery organist at St. Vincent college/seminary which I attended 1957-1961. At that time and in subsequent meetings with him I found him to be a splendid person and an extremely thoughtful one. I have followed his career ever since. I was particularly interested in the two-issue article on him that appeared in the New Yorker.
Along with many others I was dismayed when his short but devastating relationship came out especially about the $450,000 out of court settlement. In the book, Rembert deals with this in detail and, as if often the case in the United States,l we have the legal system to blame more than the people.
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What amazes me is that people can focus on only one short incident and ignore a life full of hard work for the people of God. It is of course unchristian not to forgive, but humans are often not very Christian (Gahndi claimed he'd seldom seen Christ's message put into practice). While one cannot condone Rembert's brief lapse, which of us has not in our long lives made serious mistakes. The question is, what did we learn? Rembert learned. His career is one of the most outstanding ones in 20th century Church history. Currently the Catholic Church is in retrograde and rethinking its role. Vatican II is in eclipse and many think it was wrong to have ever happened. That is another discussion for another day. Thus many disagree with some of the directions Rembert wanted the Church to go in. Regardless, Rembert Weakland's life has been a stellar one given wholly to bettering people's spiritual lives. But those who disagree with some of his ideas can now ignore all that, make fun of it, use emotion-filled words like “narcissistic” to over-simplify the real complexities of such a life. But I, for one, cannot. Rembert's work for the poor and for the marginalized in the world stands out. Let him who is without sin cast the first stone
Achilles   |2009-11-06 13:23:22
Charles Keller, We are called to be in this world but not of it, and where judgement is concerned we are called to use our Faith and Reason to identify and condemn corrupted behavior and at the same time to recognize the sanctity and incalculable worth of the person. It is you who put forward sentimentality in your defense of Rembert's worse than deplorable actions. He needs our prayers.
To damage Rembert would be to cast the first stone, but of course we all sin. However, if you read that book without the lenses of modern and corrupted tolerance, we must see the underlying currents of narcissism, perversion and immaturity as a warning to the rest of The Church.
Justifying "letting it slide" because he helped the marginalized so much is illogical and speaks more of the material dialectic than the Magisterium.
You seem to me to be trying to over complexify Rembert's corrupted memoir when he simply fell very short. There is no reduction in the facts and in his desire to change doctrine to fit his personal circumstances.
Please pray for me too.
Charles Keller   |2009-11-09 13:58:52
Thanks for the frank response to my note. I'm wondering if you might define some of your points, like narcissisum. To me a person's life is defined not by this or that event (good or bad) but on its totality and on what a person has learned from their mistakes. What you call a "worse than deplorable actions" call for some distinctions. While his partner termed an event "date rape", it sounds more like two misguided adults interacting in a mutually destructive way. To me the action of paying the settlement money was of larger concern, but, as Rembert details, it was more about how our civil legal system works against honesty than about how Rembert ultimately responded-an open court case would have cost the Church far more. As to the rest of his life, anyone looking at it has to be very impressed. I knew him as a caring, careful person, and so can't demonize him as easily as others might. And I also look at how others viewed his life-47 honorary doctorates, other holy men and Church administrators electing him over and over again to positions of responsibility and leadership. I see lay people resonating with his attempts to add their voices to how the Church deals with real life moral issues. You seem to home in on one event and say nothing else balances that. But the follower of Christ is challenged to rejoice over sinners who repent, not damn them forever for one failure no matter how bad. Rembert's life seems to have hinged on that one year (which he clearly put to an end in the now-famous letter), and he seems to have never repeated such actions while continuing to work for his flock.
Now you may disagree with his theology, his following of Vatican II directives when Rome was backing away from them. That is an area of continuing debate among concerned Catholics, but in assessing his life that disagreement ought to be put aside rather than justify vilifying him for a sin that has seen repentance and Confessional forgiveness. As to your charge that his work was a "desire to change doctrine to fit his personal cirumstances", I am again confused since over and over again his approach was not to push his personal ideas but to gather together carefully selected people and then reflect their concerns. Here I note that even Cardinal Ratzinger seemed to respect him and was concerned only that his approach seemed to cause concern in Rome.

Also I wonder what on earth you mean by "modern and corruptive tolerance" Are you calling for a return to some sort of Inquisition? I myself am intolerant of sin and its consequences, but I am a follower of Christ who constantly sought out the single lost sheep and rejoiced when it was found and brought back into the fold. For as the psalmist says, If you should mark our sins O Lord, who shall stand?
I have often wondered if outrage is not a channeled form of insecurity-something like "I'll feel uncomfortable unless everyone else believes exactly as do those I admire". To me Rembert represented more the loyal opposition, calling for Rome to take into consideration all sides and arguments before pronouncing. We are after all a living Church and to be strong, we must constantly look at how our principles are to be put into play as society advances.
Finally as for sin, I will simply note that the 8th commandment is no less important than the 6th. As a blog person, I hope you will keep that in mind when attacking someone with whom you disagree.

And yes I will pray for you too as I hope you will me.
Rob Conrad  - CATHOLICS LOST?   |2009-12-04 10:28:01
Why does the church insist on all to call the head of each church(FATHER)? When infact the WORD of GOD states we are not to call anyone FATHER, TEACHER, OR RABBI. Who gave man the authority to forgive sins? NOT GOD! Why pray for the dead? There is no point! HAIL MARY? Mary is just a woman was blessed among women, because she was chosen to carry the CHRIST! WHY does the church expect all to worship IDOLS AND GRAVEN IMAGES? I tell you this; the church IS BLIND AND LEADING THE BLIND TO THEIR CONDEMNATION FOR THIS IS THE THRONE OF THE EVIL ONE! CONSIDER THE TRUTH OF THE LIVING GOD! HIS WORD ONLY CAN SAVE! THIS CHURCH LOVES PRAISE FROM THE WORLD AND THAT WILL BE IT'S ONLY REWARD....
ned buchbinder   |2010-06-27 01:27:30
shalom
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