wants to be a troglodyte, insensitive, intolerant, a bigot? That’s the
label you are wearing these days if you oppose gay and lesbian marriage.
Let everyone make their own choices is the public mantra.
Here are reasons to stay the course. You’ll notice I haven’t included scriptural reasons…intentionally.
great majority of people of faith who oppose gay and lesbian marriage
also oppose persecution of gays and lesbians, respecting and loving them
while disagreeing with their lifestyles. People of faith are called to
heroic love and mercy, but they need not endorse behavior and choices.
there are traditional marriages where the masculine and feminine
“gifts” are poorly modeledsometimes horribly modeledbut traditional
marriage is still the only institution where children can experience
each of these unique gifts in a deeply personal way.
If gay and
lesbian marriages are accepted and legal, on what basis can polygamy,
polyandry, or any other combination of willing people, be excluded from
the right to marry? In the wake of the 2013 Supreme Court decision on
gay marriage, one federal judge has already relaxed prohibitions against
Every human being is attracted to something they
shouldn't do. Growth, happiness, maturity, transformation depend on
discerning the attractions you should not succumb to, as well as those
attractions you may pursue.
If gay and lesbian marriages are
acceptedif marriage between one man and one woman is no longer
specialwhy shouldn't cohabitating adults be entitled to the benefits
that married people enjoy?
Even when a man and woman can’t produce children, they are still configured
to produce children. Gay and lesbian marriages, by definition, are
incapable of producing children without resorting to extraordinary
means. Though marriage has been re-defined in recent decades to be about
pleasure, choices, and convenience, receptivity to new children, in the
context of the loving embrace of a man and woman, should be a paramount
goal of marriage. Nonetheless, children adopted by gay and lesbian
couples, or conceived by extraordinary means, are as precious as any
child conceived in a loving one man-one woman marriage.
marriage is embraced as a right for gays and lesbians, there will next
be a determined push to coerce, if not force, religious institutions to
accept and perform these marriages. Count on it, as religious
institutions and companies owned by people of faith are now being forced
to accept medical procedures contrary to their beliefs.
and lesbian lifestyle has historically been promiscuous (per the
dictionary definition of this word), and so celebrated by many in the
gay and lesbian community. Not every gay and lesbian subscribes to this
lifestyle, but promiscuous lifestyles, whether homosexual or
heterosexual, are unhealthy, and often predatory.
voices, including liberal voices, supported gay and lesbian marriage
before 1980. There were good reasons for this then…and now.
and advocating a virtuous life has always (yes, always) relegated a
person to the minority. There have been periods in history, and even in
today’s world, where slavery, abortion, the absolute power of kings,
duels to avenge honor, torture to extract confessions, the subjugation
of women, a belief that some races are subhuman, even human sacrifice,
have been accepted and embraced by societies and cultures. The majority
is often wrong.
In this matter, as in all matters, we should
accentuate the true, the good, and the beautiful, rather than criticize
and condemn. The truth is that marriage between one loving man and one
loving woman is good, and that children from this marriage, whether
conceived by these two, or adopted, are beautiful.
which are true, good, and beautiful, are often difficult for human
beings to accept, as they can be demanding and contrary to our
concupiscence. With generous spirits, we must hold fast to the true, the
good, and the beautiful, and proclaim them cheerfully.